While at primary school, my friends and I had "girlfriends", but what was surprising was this: we dated those girls without their knowledge. So how exactly did we do that? Simple. 

We used to figuratively say "I'm dating so and so" and we could spend so much time fantasizing about our future plans with our "girlfriends". But being the curious child that I was: one day reality sank in; that I will forever figuratively date someone until I decide to make a move. 

It was at this point in time that I started to realize that everything in life has a process. And it was at this very moment that I started to UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS of dating. That it entailed having the courage to walk up to a girl and tell her how I feel about her. Furthermore, it was at this point in my lifetime that I realized how easy it is to act on something... when you UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS involved.

So many people have brilliant mind-blowing ideas that could change the world in the most amazing way but simply because they don't understand the process involved: their ideas will forever remain just being ideas. Look, if you really want to be successful, then you need to understand the process of success. Firstly, you must ASPIRE to do or achieve something; you must have a dream or an ambition. 

Secondly, you must ACQUIRE as much information, knowledge, and skill about your aspiration that will allow you to act on making your dreams a reality. Lastly, you must APPLY all that you have acquired and make your dreams a reality. 

The moment you understand this process of success; you will find it easy to wake up in the morning and chase your dreams. You will find it easy to understand that in the quest of chasing your dreams, failure and mistakes are inevitable; that it doesn't matter how many times you fall… what matters is how many times you stand up. 

When you understand the process of being the great being that you’re destined to be, you will know that "I AM" are the most POWERFUL words ever because every single thing that you say after those words; is what you will become and is what will shape the rest of your life.

Today, so many people are waking up every single morning, putting fake smiles on their faces and pretending to be happy when, in actual fact, they are suffering deep inside. Some of them are stuck in abusive and loveless relationships and marriages not knowing how to get out of them. 

Some are living in the pain and hurt of the past... and all of this is happening because they don't understand the process of being happy and joy-filled in life. That this process entails a realization that if you are to truly be happy in life, then you need to be totally honest with yourself. 

If something or someone doesn't treat you right anymore, the way you deserve to be treated, you need to acknowledge and tell yourself that you deserve better and deserve to be happy. You need to understand that you can't hold onto anything, believing that it's something while hoping that it becomes everything. When you have come to that realization; you then need to simply make the decision to move forward and act on leaving the past behind to cross over to a land of joy; peace of mind and happiness.

If you want to shine bright like a diamond, then you must understand the process thereof; that you must be willing to be prepared, to be cut and refinished like a diamond. You must be willing to go through the heat and allow life, it's challenges and tests to refine you into a better and stronger person.

So you want to be the best at what you do? Then understand the process thereof, that it entails preparing to be the best, seeing yourself as the best, believing that you’re capable of being the best and going out there and be the best.

All you have to do is UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS and get through it!

Today being a CHOOSEDAY; I want to challenge you to make the CHOICE to UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS.

Happy CHOOSEDAY

#NoAlarmClockNeededMyChoiceWakesMeUp

Fannie Zim is a practicing and Admitted Attorney of the High Court of South Africa.